I wrote the article about a year ago and i always go back to read when i need a reminder to be there for myself always. thought i’d share this reminder with you all.
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Something I have learned in the past years is the life-shattering truth that no one else can make you happy but yourself.
It is not your job, hobbies, dreams, socioeconomic status or any other material object that will make you feel complete. What it all comes down to is you. None of these things will make anyone truly happy who has not come to terms with themselves.
Becoming your own best friend isn’t a fluffy pep-talk, but essential to fulfilling your fullest potential. No matter who is coming and going in and out of your life the one person who always remains is yourself. The longest relationship you are going to have in life is the one you have with yourself. This is why it is so important to strengthen and develop the connection you have with yourself.
When you realise that you can’t count on anyone else for your own happiness it’s a revelation. From there you know you can’t rely on any other person or earthly possession, then it’s about investing in yourself and taking care of yourself.
You become your best friend by looking out for yourself, doing what would be best for you and taking care of yourself. By taking the time and thought to learn about yourself, your fears, gifts, limitations, motivations etc. You will be able to develop a stronger sense of self. And when you have that it’ll be easier for you to accept yourself rather than punish. And that will also pave a way for you to decipher what exactly you want in life, your goals and pinpoint what makes you happy or unhappy.
Instead of beating yourself up for making a mistake, learn from it and move on. Praise yourself for your accomplishments. Realise your accomplishments are worth the same value despite whether you get praise from other people.
You may believe that becoming your own best friend, and praising yourself every day, sounds a little egotistical! However, valuing and respecting yourself is not egotistical. Reminding yourself of your unique talents, telling yourself that you are lovable, valuable and that you can achieve your goals, is only truly egotistical if you believe you and your talents are better than anyone else’s. This is not the intention of self-praise.
Learn to enjoy your company and have fun alone.
by Ummulkhair Musajo